M is nearly 21 months old and we are STILL co-sleeping. We’ve gotten a LOT of questions recently about how and when we’re transferring her to her own room. We have no plans to transfer out of our room until she wants her own space, which is not right now. We also plan on co-sleeping with Baby Girl 2.0 because let’s face it, I highly doubt I will ever have a child who will tolerate a crib. I KNOW—you probably think we are batty!
We are fortunate that we don’t hear many negative comments about co-sleeping because our families are fine with it, and for the most part we tend to hang around other parents who also co-sleep or who support it. But I know there are a lot of opinions about it out there, and occasionally we do hear people make negative comments about it—usually about how your marriage will suffer (well, I’m pregnant again….soo…yeah), how nobody will ever get any sleep (we all sleep pretty hard most nights, unless M is teething, and she’s so loud I would be up even if she was in her own room), and how it can cause SIDS (it doesn’t cause higher SIDS rates—suffocation can happen if you don’t do it safely, but suffocation is NOT SIDS!).
We bought a king sized bed last year, and it’s working just fine now—even with my husband, M, me and my 20 pillows. I think we could easily add Baby Girl 2.0 into the bed, but it would be nice to have the option of a little more space. I’m planning on crashing in the guestroom with Baby Girl 2.0 for 4-6 weeks, until she’s sleeping in slightly longer stretches and not needing a diaper change every 1.5-2 hours, but after that, we needed a plan.
We’ve decided to add a twin bed to one side of the king bed. We plan on attaching it with bungee cords and basically “sidecarring” it to the king sized bed—like we did with the crib for a few months (which M never liked). We aren’t entirely sure WHO will sleep in this bed—we’re going to buy bedding that is comfortable for us, but is kid-approved too. I’m hoping at some point M will sleep there, but it wouldn’t surprise me if my husband ends up on twin bed occasionally. Our room will be pretty tight, but fortunately we do have the space to create mega-bed.
I’ve talked with a lot of mommas who co-sleep with 2 or more kids (including one of my midwives who had THREE in the bed and created ultimate mega-bed–a king AND a full bed pushed together), and it seems like very few people report the kiddos waking each other up–it seems like they learn to sleep through the noise of others at a young age.
We’re in the process of shopping for the other half of mega-bed, and I’m hoping we have it set up by mid-September. I’ll be sure to post a picture here and on instagram once it’s been completed!